FRIENDSHIP AND PART OF MY SPIRITUAL GROWTH
I work a lot with Archangel Raphael, the healing angel, and Archangel Michael, the all powerful angel. They have guided me on my journey with friendship throughout my life. They know who I need and when I need them. I am thankful to them for their guidance.
We have many friends through our lives. They come into your life at just the right time and seem to leave when you don’t share anything in common any more. You may need an aspect of them that will compliment your own soul, or just be a good companion to share life with. There will be many stresses through these relationships and you have to learn to work through them if you want that friendship to last.
We will have that one best friend that has always been there for us and us there for them. Then something happens and we may not understand it, but that friend no longer wants the friendship to continue. We take vacations together and even though there is a strain because differences of likes we forge forward. We plan parties together and invite mutual friends and family. We laugh together and cry together.
Finally that one day when the differences of opinions change totally one friend doesn’t like the honesty of the other. She doesn’t like to hear all the negativity she is carrying. She wants to be a spiritual being and follow inspirational people but at the same time she is talking badly about everyone and everything, including family and friends.
I had that friend. We met in 1981 where we both worked. We were both pregnant and had our babies, both boys, 4 months apart. We stayed close for about 3 years then drifted apart. In those 3 years she even worked for my then husband and me.
We went to Italy many years ago and although we had a good time, she was very negative and brought all of us down because she wanted to be more important than the other 2 women we were with. She complained about out hotel rooms (we stayed in various hotels throughout Italy) saying they were too small or they have bed bugs. I went off by myself on the extra excursions that the tour group decided to go on. She didn’t want to go and tried to talk me out of it so she wasn’t the third wheel with our other 2 friends.
We went away to Canada, just the two of us, for a 3 day weekend of inspirational talks on becoming more spiritual and spreading love to others. We were also learning how to care of ourselves with self help guidance. The conference was called I Can Do It and was presented by Hay House Publishing. From the day before the drive she complained. She wanted to use her own car to drive because she promised she would drive the entire way from New York to Canada. She promised to drive because I wasn’t much of a driver and didn’t have highway driving confidence. I just got out of the hospital and wasn’t in any shape to drive and my car was more practical. But I decided the best way to handle it is to just do it and drive most of the way even though I was in pain.
Then we had a conflict about the food being brought on the trip where we had duplicates. So I just realized, OK, we will just enjoy twice the amount. Since it was a long drive I kept the food in arms reach. But she thought it was too confining and complained about it, even though she enjoyed the food on the drive.
During the drive she complained about some relatives and people at work. I reminded her that the trip is for positive, spiritual connections and seminars. I then heard the angels say to tell her “take a deep breath”.
We stopped in Niagara Falls for a night to do some sightseeing. She treated me to dinner because my birthday was the week before. We then went to a casino and once she finished spending $20 she told me it was time to leave. I brought enough money with me because I planned to play the slots for much more than ten minutes. I was very disappointed. Then when we were sightseeing she was too tired and wanted to walk back to the hotel. I went with her so she didn’t have to walk alone. I didn’t get to see the falls lit up at night. The next day she decided to drive to the falls and since she has already been there, she stopped in the middle of the highway and told me to get out and walk across to the falls. I was scared because of oncoming traffic but what else was there to do except totally miss the falls which is what I went there to see.
As we drove through town in Canada toward our hotel she said this isn’t good, it’s a slum. I said, just take a deep breath, it will be fine. There was no parking at our hotel so she complained about walking to the parking lot in the slums. I decided I would leave her at the hotel and park then return on foot alone. She blamed me for choosing the hotel in a bad area, although she didn’t want any input except to say she can’t pay any more than $70 a night. That put a strain on the options where we could stay. I thought about paying the difference for a higher priced hotel but really didn’t want to be inconvenienced to make her happy. I was originally going to go alone and fly there but she insisted on going with me. I had been at an I Can Do It Cruise earlier that year and wanted to continue following these inspirational leaders.
We checked into the hotel and there was no elevator so she complained that we can’t carry our luggage up the stairs and demanded to have a main level room. I told her, just take a deep breath, we can ask for help. The room turned out being tiny, and the owners are a different nationality, so she said there will be bed bugs. Again, I told her take a deep breath and have faith.
I continued to bite my tongue. She said she will not leave the hotel alone while I was attending the first inspirational seminar of the weekend alone. The seminar ran late and I called her to say she has to be ready to be picked up and we can’t do dinner. She got upset. Driving back to the seminars she said she went shopping via bus. I was shocked because she went alone.
I was finally at the point that I had to say something. I told her if she would have told me about the bus she could have taken one to the seminar and save $20 for parking which I already paid it once. She is mad because now why should she have to pay for it. If she took a bus there wouldn’t be an additional parking charge.
We attended the seminar and she didn’t talk to me the entire weekend except when I asked her something about the hotel room and ended up having a fight. The morning we were leaving I did an angel reading for her and it confirmed her negativity. She asks that was for me and was shocked when I confirmed it.
The 11 hour ride home was in silence. When I dropped her off I hugged her and said I love her and would call tomorrow. She then told my family she never wants to see me again.
The stress was too much for her because she couldn’t face the reality that she is a negative person.
I realized it’s for the best because I can’t have her dragging me down any more. I want to be stress free and continue expanding my spirituality and follow inspirational speakers. Negativity also affects my many health issues and I have to live with that the rest of my life. So I rely on Archangel Raphael for protecting me from that negativity and to help heal me.
I can breathe because I am on the road that is meant for me and maybe a new friend or friends will enter my life.
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